Dating a widower with small children
Again, I truly DO love and appreciate hearing from you. What you share here is meaningful to me and also helps inform the thousands of women who are reading these posts. Dating a man who has been widowed can be challenging, but as you say, they can also be a great catch. 🙂 Bp I am reading these comments because of my current situation of being in love with my widower of 8 months who is having a very hard time.Unlike divorced men, they don’t come from a failed relationship, but many have a strong track record of loving and appreciating a woman as a wife and partner. Yes, I would much rather have to “compete” (as other women have said it) with his lovely dead wife and reap the benefits of his good marriage than have to put up with a man who can’t truly trust, can’t commit, still has anger and has a crazy ex who is still in his life. However, I need to say that the reason I am willing to wait for a good relationship with my widower is because of the love and care he had for his late wife before and during her illness.I understand completely, not to say that they don’t hurt sometimes, since I went through the death of a man who I had dated for 15 years.We are in constant contact but no more physical for a while.
Decorate the Christmas tree on time; don't ignore the tradition just because you don't feel like doing it.If he speaks of his late wife with love and fond memories, you can be sure he has a loving heart and in time, with your patience, you may find yourself worthy of being on the receiving end of that, too! We did get together and had a “hot” relationship for a couple of months.I am currently on the back burner until he gets through some important “first” dates since her death, birthdays, holidays, etc.Like every widowed father, Seth was confronting a new reality in his life, created in the wake of the tragic death of the love of his life.Seth came to understand the need to reach out for and accept support, to communicate effectively with his children and to put the family first. The grieving process after the loss of a mother and wife can take a long time, and literally cannot be rushed.
If he makes her happy in countless wonderful ways, I advise that she try to understand that there can be a piece of him that still loves and honors his late wife.